All Hail the Introvert: Why it’s Time to Embrace Introvert Traits

As a society, we have long idealized the talkers and doers. But, more recently, the growing popularity of mindfulness has allowed us to gain an appreciation for how listening and being quietly present are just as important. In her remarkable book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking (2013), Susan Cain helps us understand the benefits of introversion.

The Origin of Extroversion

Cain describes how the idea of personality (and the need for an outgoing one) wasn't widespread until the last century. The advent of the salesman heralded a cultural turn; we became enamored with being charmingly extroverted. Advertising and entertainment further promoted this type of self-presentation. Now one had to project confidence at all costs—even if it didn't come naturally.

Introvert Success Stories

However, in challenging the so-called “extrovert ideal,” Cain points to the large number of introverted students on their way to elite universities. These students are raised to respect and listen to their teachers, rather than trying to be the class clown or most popular. And they go on to excel academically.

She also argues that introverts can shine in leadership roles, citing Rosa Parks as one example. Parks’ integrity, as well as her quiet, gentle, and unassuming nature, helped her advance the civil rights movement. Her passive resistance actually spoke louder than many of the more extroverted voices around her.

The Nature of Introversion

Cain’s book cites a 1980 longitudinal study by Dr. Jerome Kagan who exposed babies to new experiences for the purpose of predicting who would become introverted. Those with stronger reactions to new experiences turned out to be the most serious, careful, and, of course, quiet. He connected these traits to a more reactive amygdala (the part of the brain that controls emotions and stress hormones).

Yet those same babies often also developed valued social skills, such as empathy, caring, and cooperation, highlighting that we all have something valuable to share socially, regardless of our natural disposition.

I have long believed that my introversion helps me do my best work. I find that when I focus on listening and understanding, solutions come naturally. For that reason, I encourage you to embrace your introversion, rather than feeling anxious about it.

Interested in knowing if you're an introvert? Take Cain's quiz at susancain.net.